Where is HOME now?
As many of you know Judy's mom passed away on Dec. 27. For the past month and a half the family has been dealing with all the issues that follow the death of a parent. Lots of things to go through and organize. In fact, this Saturday Judy and her sisters and us guys will be going to her home to finalize decisions related to furnishings and personal items.
What has come as a bit of a surprise to me is the reality that for the first time in my life I don't have a "Home" to go home to anymore. My parents had died several years ago, as had Judy's dad. But her mom has always been there for us. A true Matriarch for the family. We always went to her house for Christmas. She was always with us for other holidays and birthdays. It was just always comforting to know that she was there and we had a place called home to go to.
Now that home is empty. All the personal idiosyncrasies that made Clarine, Clarine are on display. Her love for necklaces is evident by the scores of necklaces hanging in her bedroom. Scarves also were one of her treasured items. Then there's the crocheted doilies and dolls everywhere. Her chair sits where it always did, along with a TV that was from the stone age and even a tape player. In her garage hangs an old bicycle that she just had to have years ago. Not sure if she rode it more than a dozen times, but she had to have that bike.
So MANY memories. As our daughter Jamie and her husband went through the house on Saturday Jamie talked about memories she had about this item or that item. More tears. Surprising memories. Things we never knew about. And the emotions! For a couple that deal with death all the time I'm amazed at the emotions flooding our lives these days.
I guess our place is home now. When our kids and grandkids think of home it will change now to our place. A torch has been passed to Judy and me now. Time marches on, and so must life. I only know this, I'm going to miss going home.