Filtering by Tag: heartache
So often Judy and I hear people who have not lost a child, talking about people who have, saying things like, “They just aren’t themselves anymore.” And those people are absolutely right!
When a mom or dad loses a child their whole life changes! Priorities change. Career satisfaction often changes. Marriages are affected. Surviving siblings flounder. An empty spot at the dinner table screams out “NEW NORM!”
The image above talks about spending your life on a new level. New level, new norm, whatever term you use, it’s true. The grief journey after the loss of a child is a lifetime journey. That’s not to say that the initial grief and struggles don’t soften over time, they do. But there is a scar on the heart that reminds us every time we look in the mirror that something has changed. A piece is missing.
If you’ve lost a child know that every other parent that has lost a child is feeling the loss too. Literally millions of other moms and dads are walking this journey with you. You may not see them at first, but if you look closely there is often a scar that you will notice that others cannot see. When we hear of your child’s death, our scar aches too. You are not alone. You are simply on a new level.
Once again, Judy and I want to remind those of you who haven’t lost a child, but know of someone who has - reach out to them today. Let them know that you’re willing to walk with them on this new level of their lives. Some days we just need a fellow traveler on this journey we call grief. God bless, and know that Judy and I love you!
One of the realities for families that have lost a child is the fact that our hearts are actually broken. We have heard over and over again from families that have been to Smile Again Ministries that there is a physical pain in our chest - where our heart rests.
How does a broken heart mend? Well, let us say right away, that broken hearts take time to mend. There is NO easy fix. No magic words that make all the pain go away. No single moment in time when the healing is complete. BUT, healing can take place.
Judy and I have found that talking with other broken hearted people brings healing. We tell other moms and dads, “Yes, we experienced the same pain in our chests. Yes we know what it’s like to wake up and wish you could just hide away for the rest of your life. We know.”
There’s one thing for sure, broken hearts need help to mend. That’s what Judy and I do. We help people with broken hearts. We don’t have all the answers. For some questions there are no answers. But there are steps you can take if your heart is broken today.
We have immediate openings for families to come to Whitetail Lodge. We can tell you with full confidence that we’ll do everything we can to help your broken heart to beat again. To hope again. To find joy again. To live again.
If you’ve lost a child and your heart needs mending contact us today and set up a time when we can meet and begin the process to mend your heart. Head to our website at www.smileagainministries.com to book a visit today. If you have a friend whose heart is broken please let them know about Smile Again Ministries. God bless, love you, Pat & Judy