Dads Grieve Too

It shouldn't come as a surprise anymore, but it does. As we meet with moms and dads who have lost a child we so often hear the dads talking about how people seem to think that dads either shouldn't grieve the death of their child - or they just don't. Neither one of these viewpoints is true.

Dads do, and SHOULD grieve. But so often in our American culture a dad is encouraged to hide his grief. Some dads even think that crying and grieving openly is somehow less manly or macho. That's why we often find that dads who come to Whitetail Lodge have seldom talked about the death of their child out loud. For some, their talking with Judy and me is the very first time they've said anything about their feelings and loss.

Judy and I would like to encourage those of you who know of a dad who's lost a child to reach out to them this Father's Day. Maybe drop them a note, email, or text just letting them know you are remembering their child and asking God to give them His peace this Sunday. Remember, for this dad, there will be an empty place at the dinner table as Father's Day is celebrated. Of course, this dad may not say too much out loud, but I can tell you from personal experience that it will mean a lot to him inside.

Thanks for caring for those who are hurting so much. Thanks too for praying and supporting Judy and me as we minister to families who have lost a child. We couldn't do it without your support. We love you, Pat & Judy